Honor your presence - nourish your worth. And what does that mean? To be present with yourself and make room for what is.
Some people find it challenging to be alone, to be in their own company, as it can be difficult to be present with the emotions that may arise, such as loneliness, boredom, sadness, and more.
Many escape by constantly keeping themselves busy, through exercise, fixing other people's problems, eating their emotions, consuming too much alcohol, taking drugs, having an excessive need for sex, numbing the pain with TV and social media, through excessive buying of things, etc.
But it's important to make space for the difficult emotions instead of fleeing.
Instead, try embracing everything that may come with presence and loving care. When we make room for what is difficult, it slowly releases its grip, and we realize it's not as frightening as we imagined. We realize that we can be in the emotions without escaping.
Assure yourself that everything is okay even when it doesn't always feel that way, and take gentle care of yourself and your inner child. Honor yourself for being present and giving yourself what you need, something only you can provide. Perhaps you need to wrap yourself in a blanket and have a cup of tea - do something good for yourself where you feel like you're pampering yourself.
Even though we are adults, it is often our inner child that needs attention, that needs reassurance that everything is okay and that your adult self is taking care of you. If you grew up with an insecure attachment and haven't healed the wounds from your childhood, you may struggle in your adult life with being present with difficult emotions - emotions that haven't been resolved.
There are no other people outside of you who can ultimately give you what you need. Therefore, it is so essential that you release what hinders you from feeling well, that you learn to love yourself unconditionally and learn to nourish yourself. Even though it can be difficult, practice saying to yourself, "I love myself." For some, this may be very challenging and unfamiliar, but my experience is that it becomes easier with time. Fake it till you make it.
The most precious thing we can do, besides being present with ourselves, is to be present with others. But if we haven't learned to be present with ourselves and love ourselves, it can also be difficult to be present with others. And sometimes, it's easier to be present with others than with ourselves. It's important to strike a good balance.
Notice what it does to you when you are met with presence - to feel seen and accepted for who you are. Think about when you are on an airplane, and the flight attendant always says to take oxygen first before assisting others - it's the same with love and presence.
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